House Rules

01The vibe

The B*tchfest Assembly is a place to vent, debate, brainstorm, and laugh — the messy, human middle of a good conversation. Work drama, hot takes, tiny wins, big questions, dumb arguments about the correct way to load a dishwasher. All welcome.

Think of it as the internet’s favorite living room: loud, opinionated, and somehow still kind. You’re here to say what you actually think — and to hear what everyone else actually thinks back.

02Be loud, be honest, be weirdly kind

Our one golden rule: roast the take, never the person. Heat is welcome. Cruelty is not.

• Argue hard about ideas. Go easy on the humans holding them.
• Assume the person on the other side is a real person having a real day.
• Strong opinions, loosely held. It’s okay — encouraged, even — to change your mind.
• Bring the funny. A little wit goes a long way; punching down doesn’t.

03What’s not okay

Some things aren’t a “take” — they’re just not allowed here. Don’t:

• Harass or threaten anyone, or coordinate pile-ons.
• Post hate — attacks based on who someone is (race, ethnicity, religion, gender, sexuality, disability, and the like).
• Doxx — share private or identifying info about someone without consent.
• Spam — floods, scams, engagement-bait, or relentless self-promotion.
• Post illegal content or anything sexualizing minors — instant, permanent, no appeals.
• Impersonate people or organizations, or spread deliberate misinformation meant to harm.

04Debate Mode etiquette

Debate Mode exists so disagreement is a feature, not a fight. When you’re in it:

• Steelman before you strike — respond to the strongest version of the other side.
• Bring reasons, not just volume. “Because I said so” loses every round.
• No moving the goalposts, no bad-faith “just asking questions.”
• Concede the good points. It’s a flex, not a loss.

05Anonymity & accountability

Anonymous mode lets you say the thing without the spotlight — that’s a feature we love and protect. But anonymous doesn’t mean unaccountable.

The House Rules apply exactly the same whether your name is attached or not. Hiding behind anonymity to harass or harm is a fast track to a ban.

06Reporting & moderation

See something that breaks the rules? Report it. Reports go to our moderation team (a mix of humans and tooling), and reporting is confidential.

• Use the report button on any post, comment, or profile.
• Don’t weaponize reports — mass-flagging takes you don’t like is itself a violation.
• Moderators may remove content, add context, or lock threads that go off the rails.

07Consequences

We’d rather nudge than nuke, so most enforcement is a ladder — but the top rungs are real.

• Warning — a heads-up and, usually, removed content.
• Timeout — a temporary pause on posting or commenting.
• Suspension — a longer break for repeat or serious violations.
• Ban — the door, for the worst behavior or persistent offenders.

Some violations (illegal content, threats, sexualizing minors) skip the ladder entirely and go straight to a permanent ban.

08How rules evolve

The Assembly is a living room, and living rooms change. We’ll update these House Rules as the community grows and as we learn what works.

When we make meaningful changes, we’ll say so — and we’ll usually ask what you think first. This is your house too.